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Dating Younger: What Freshman Guys Really Think of You

By JENNIFER CONLIN MAY 25, RECENTLY, as I heard my daughter, a junior in high school, and her friends discuss their vollege for the prom, I had a vaguely troubling thought: Her best friends wanted to take boys younger than themselves much younger And one of those boys just happened to be my ninth-grade son. We would never have even considered venturing out to the prom, let senior girl dating freshman boy college the school parking lot, with a boy in a lower grade, unless we were baby-sitting him.

High school years were like dog years back then. A one-year difference might as well have been a seven-year span, which is frsshman the older boys looked so much wiser and more sophisticated than the boys our own senior girl dating freshman boy college with acne. To score a college boyfriend was a real coup.

Call it young cougars, a game of confidence or just female empowerment, but the unthinkable during my high school years is now happening all around me and senior girl dating freshman boy college mothers of my acquaintance. Boh growing number of our teenage girls freshmxn unabashedly showing their preference for younger boys, saying they are not only more respectful than datihg older counterparts, but generally nicer to date. Other teenagers see growing evidence of this dating trend in their own schools.

I am willing to admit that she is older than me and has more confidence and experience. I think I prefer dating a senior to someone my own age. Said Charlotte about Josh, who is her first boyfriend: This feels easier as I can just be myself around him. I like to think I would worst dating profile pictures ever any girl as much ffeshman her, but I do look up to her for being older.

Peter added that one reason he felt comfortable being the youngest in a group is that his only sibling is nearly twice his age. But he was also so nice all night long, asking if I wanted anything, carrying my things. It was really sweet. I could just have had fun with him at the prom and not feel any social pressure. As it senior girl dating freshman boy college out, Charles did not go with Jordan, and not just because he thought he was too young.

His older ffeshman hated the idea: Jordan ended up going, happily, with a boy her own age. Who knows what will happen to these couples? A long-term future seems unlikely; almost all of the graduating girls said their relationships will probably end when they go to college. The younger boys seem to take that eventuality in stride. Of her romance with Dan, Rachel said: But if Kate Burkhardt, a junior at Dartmouth College, is correct, the cougar-in-training trend could continue as these high schoolers get older.

She dated her high school boyfriend, one grade below her, through her freshman year of college. They finally broke up when he went to college. A version of this article appears in print on May 27,on Page ST2 creshman the New York edition with the headline: For Would-Be Cougars, The Prom Is a Collegw Start. Order Reprints Today's Paper Subscribe. Tell us what you think. Please upgrade your browser. Sections Home Search Skip to content Skip to navigation View mobile version.

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